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"Try to imagine a culture where arguments are not viewed in terms of war,where no one wins or loses, where there is no sense of attacking or defending, gaining or losing ground.
Imagine a culture where an argument is viewed as a dance, the participants are seen as performers, and the goal is to perform in a balanced and aesthetically pleasing way.
In such a culture, people would view arguments differently, experience them differently, carry them out differently, and talk about them differently."
[Lakoff & Johnson 4-5]